It’s Better To Have Loved and Lost…

It's Better To Love!Than never to have loved at all. True???? For some, yes. But the real issue is that they haven’t discovered the true meaning of love.

For most it is a physical union and true enough, it involves passion, but it is not the primary focus. Passion should be the product of love. The consummation of the union between two hearts which have already been united.

In scripture the Lord tells us that, “the two become one.” Well it isn’t a physical union which He is referring to. When we have a physical union, we are not one. We depart from each other and it’s perfectly obvious that two beings are not tied together physically, after the act. So the Lord must have been referring to something else.

He is speaking about the union of two souls. Tied together when this act of intimacy takes place. This certainly speaks of a love which is much deeper than any sexual union. It is the reason our Lord told us to “Keep the marriage bed pure.” This act is to be  sacred entitlement for the union God has brought together only. If not, we run the risk of fracturing our souls. Having soul-ties to persons, we have no business being in a relationship with, and it is very difficult to break. Because it is spiritual, and it’s not something you can see, it’s an obvious struggle, when you look at the number of people stuck in bad relationships.

But the Lord created us to love. He had one person in mind, yet we try to find a companion without His guidance, and it causes all kinds of heartache. Not just to the two people involved, but any children inherit the grief as well.

This is the reason He wanted us to wait on His divine guidance. When we are fully mature in the Lord, it is much easier to see what He has planned and who He has for us.

The lesson of Ishmael and Isaac, should make anyone aware of what future grief is born of a union not initiated by the Lord. As the Lord had given Abraham and Sarah the promise of a son, Sarah, doubted. She thought God needed a little help and told Abraham to have a sexual union  with Hagar. This union brought forth a son….but it was not the son promised. Hagar named her son Ishmael.

Of course, just as the Lord promised, Sarah became pregnant. Now after Isaac was born, the trouble began. The son of promise, whom the covenant with Abraham was to inherit, was at odds with his half-brother. Sarah also had much strife with Hagar.

Now she told Abraham to send Ishmael and Hagar away. The Lord told Abraham, “Listen to your wife.” Of course Hagar was distraught and wept bitterly in the wilderness. This is when the angel of the Lord spoke to her and told her “not to weep, for Isaac was the son of promise, yet her son would also be the father of a great nation, although Ishmael and Isaac would always be at war with one another.

Ishmael was indeed, the father of the Arab nations, and Isaac, as we know, was the father of Israel. And now we see everything that is prophesied, as a result of this one little mistake. This is what our lack of trust can creat…misery.

When we bring this home, to our own lives, we can see what our choices void of Christ, will bring. The fruit of an unholy union, is difficult and full of sadness. It leads to captivity and pain.

However, the Lord has given us promises as well. When we walk in His ways. True love, abundance and freedom. It is easy to see the true meaning of love, when Christ is the center of your life. He must be the third cord in the strand that ties two together. Otherwise you are tied by a soul love, which isn’t real or lasting.

Most men want a companion since the Lord said, “it is not good that man should be alone.” But it is also true that most women want a man whom they can submit to. This is also the order of things. God created this type of union in the Garden of Eden. It is birthed in  our hearts. We can search a lifetime and not find that. But our hearts are searching without our even knowing on a conscious level. And when this person is found, it is beautiful. It doesn’t matter if you have anything physical, because you have a spiritual love,which transcends the natural.

How do you know? Well, it is only obvious when you understand the Lord’s description of marriage. A Godly marriage is one which has the man, submitting to Christ. A woman who submits to her husband. The man “lays down his life for his wife, the way Christ has done for the church. The woman submits to her husband. In that order. It is a picture of the perfect union.

Now I’ve had relationships with men in my life and never experienced this. Of course, I didn’t have the wisdom of God when I  entered into these unions. But even lacking His wisdom, I knew, this can’t be what this is all about. Selfishness and manipulation, a need to control and abusive power. No one whom I would ever have the desire to submit to.It’s no wonder that the world has turned that word into something extremely negative or obscene.

But now I am beginning to understand and I can say my heart has finally seen a picture of this type of person. I am blessed that the Lord has given me a vision of this truth. One whom I can say is the embodiment of Him. No, a union has not taken place. Yet having  given up all hope of this mythical person, I’m satisfied in knowing he does exist. And finding this love has satisfied my heart and gives proof, that I have loved but I have not lost.

1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. how to get over your ex
    Jul 26, 2010 @ 05:10:31

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